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Hi I'm Tanya Semerad, former lawyer and business leader turned coach and you're listening to high performance made simple, the show for people who want more clarity, influence and wellbeing. So you can live and lead more courageously unlock your full potential, and inspire others to do the same. Let's do this.
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Hello, my friend, I'm so excited, you're here because we're going to get clear on your goals. Together, we will get clear on what your overall life goals are being the things you deeply want the things you deeply want to do and be so that you can say you're living in alignment with yourself, you're living on path with who you are that you are living your happiest, most satisfied life. And only you know what that is, you want to be able to say that you've truly brought yourself forward you are bringing yourself forward and that you're experiencing the depth of life that you came here to experience, not just skating on the surface of things and doing what other people tell you to do. And of course, I bet that you want to give back to the world in ways that are unique to you in ways that you want to show up. And then we're going to get clear on how you're going to make them happen. And of course, when this is high performance after all, and we'll use a 30 and 60 day action step plan that you can start today. Freaking awesome, right. So even if he got some gold clarity a little while ago, this is a great opportunity to check in with yourself to go through this process with me now to see if your goal is to align with what you really want. And whether you're on track to achieve them anytime soon. It's also a great opportunity to re challenge yourself. So even if you're relatively happy about your goals, there's always new potential to consider, you know more today than you did last week. So with more information comes new opportunity, stuff we didn't even consider before. So this is your chance to challenge yourself and see if you can aim even higher, and be more true to you. That's the real skill here being able to have more impact and meaning in your life, while being true to who you are and what you want. This is why we're doing this exercise. Okay, there are four steps you need to get clear on your life goals, and then figure out how to make them happen. I'm going to prompt you now through the steps and also give you a writable PDF that you can keep all of your answers in. So download it after this session. When you're reflecting on what you learned about yourself today. I'll provide the link in the show notes. And at the end of this episode, so you're not tempted to go there now. Yes. So step one, what are your big picture desires in life? Another way to think about this is what do you feel called to learn what you feel called to do? What do you feel called to go? What gets you excited and happy and feel like you're really drenching wrenching? That wet tea towel out? Getting all that water out? How will you feel when you get all of that out? You squeeze everything out alive? If you're still stumped. What if someone told you that today was your last day? very morbid. I know, but we're real here. What do you wish you'd done? What do you wish you had more time to do? Who do you wish you were? Who do you wish you focus more on spent more time with? The idea here is to get a list going a list as long as your desires are so you acknowledge what you really want in this life. You're making it black and white. Here we go. Step two of this list. What could be this year's desires? What could you make real this year? There are two important considerations for this as well. first consideration is what is this year what is the actual year for you? Was it recently New Year so it's the calendar year for you? Was it recently or is it recently new financial year. So that's the calendar year for you. Has it been your birthday recently or is your birthday about to happen is that the line in the sand, year starts moment for you. My favorite thing to do is simply decide that this is your year starting today from today 12 months, this is the year that I would like to make the certain desires come true. So have that date clear in mind. The second consideration is when selecting this year desires from your step one list, make sure that whatever you choose, whichever you're circling or highlighting in your mind, feels good. Check your body, scan your body feel into your heart, it has to feel good for you. It can't be a Well, I think it's right, or it's super logical, it just makes sense. Or, you know, this is realistic for me now in my resources, it can't be that kind of thing. Because that's not your desire. That's just you reacting to stuff in your life. That's just you, pretending you want to live someone else's expectations. Someone else's ideas for what would be good for you are their desires that they're living through you. We want to get clear on your desires and own your desires. Don't worry, we will get strategic in the next step. So relax. If you love organization, just like I do, we are getting there. This is just us selecting from your big picture list the stuff that feels good to focus on this year. Step three, we get to map out your 30 and 60 days steps. So first, make sure you've got your date, right is it today, wherever it is, no doubt 30 days from that day. And then 60 days from that day, we got to get the timeframe right, your timeframe is your guide. Bit like when you're younger and maybe going to bowling you had the rail guards stop your ball going in the gutter. This will keep you on track. Second, you've got to get clear on your steps. What are the things you need to do to become who you need to be? What do you need to learn? What do you need to prioritize what's going to get you closer to your desire? Now some steps might be super obvious, great, write those down. Some steps might be more of a mystery. So for those steps, and you don't really know or there's it's cloudy, it's not clear what needs to be done. The clear step is research. To figure out what you need to know to understand what you don't know yet so that you can make those things steps. He get it. Step four, this is where we get our GI Joe and gi Jane about getting to work on our desires. It's rolling up our sleeves. This is when you take your list, go to your calendar, and block out physical time and space to take those juicy steps. Now, here are some considerations for this final step. Is there anything in your calendar that you need to stop? Is that something you're doing a lot of that's not giving you that productive payoff that you want? Is there anything that needs to stop or can be reduced? Is there anything supportive, you need to start? What's good in your calendar, what needs to continue? Now this consideration is especially helpful for people who say, tell you I just don't have time. I don't even get private time on the loo. Now if this is you ask him stuff, you're gonna need to strip out of your calendar and I know you can do it, it just takes a good hard look and actually taking the brave step to carve out some time in the first place to have a look at it. Because you don't know what you don't know. And if you just keep saying you're busy, you're just gonna keep giving in to everyone else and what everyone else needs from you and just gonna keep rolling with life without your clarity and without the impact you want. You'll never have really drenched that tea towel. Yes, rant over. Second consideration. Who do you need to align with to make those steps happen? Can you do it alone? Or do you need to speak with a business partner so that you can get aligned? Do you need to sit down with your significant other and align with them? Do you have a family? How about your family? Do you need to align with your family? How they're going to help you how you're going to continue to help them? Do you need to get a coach? Do you need to get more mentors? You need a support crew to fire track you as you strive to do this thing, as you strive to take these steps you need a support crew, who is that going to be? Do you need to schedule in time steps to figure out who that could be?
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Another consideration is, how are you gonna manage your energy and wellbeing, you are asking yourself to go to a new level here, it's going to require a new level of energy that you may never have had before. So where can you block time to reset and recharge, to finally see that nutritionist to actually work out consistently? Is it time to get some supportive supplements. final consideration for step four is who do you need to become in order to level yourself up mentally, to be the person who is ready to do the work and deliver on the steps with mental fortitude because you're going to be challenged by people. So you need to expect opposition, as you do new stuff. As you try new things, you're going to scare people because you're changing, and it's going to reflect to them some level of insecurity within themselves. It might even reveal that they don't know what they're supposed to be doing. It'll reveal that they don't have clarity, and they might not know how to deal with this stuff. So who do you need to become in order to level up your mental strength? If you've got any doubts at all about how to do this, listen to episode two. It's about gaining self clarity, and you'll understand which thoughts are holding you back. And which thoughts will upgrade your thinking so that you become the person who is ready to deliver on their desires. And that episode is less than 20 something minutes like it's quick and you get your hands dirty in a good way. Then listen to the episode on the subject play a technique. That technique is about substituting negative disempowering thoughts to those old thoughts that aren't supportive anymore, with positive, empowering new thoughts. And to do it quickly in the heat of the moment before you lose your nerve wherever you are, whether it's the boardroom or the bedroom, you hear what I'm saying that Sub Player technique is really fun, and you'll get a lot out of that episode for the rest of your life. So I did this clarity goals exercise again before recording this episode. So I have got some fresh, really fresh clarity to share with you. Just like fresh bread straight out of the oven. It smells heavenly. And I must say, step one for me my big picture desires in life the stuff I want to do so that I can say that I'm living my best life that I feel satisfied that I can go to sleep knowing that I can really doing what I need to do in my life. I feel a deep sense of meaning and also joy. You know, I like to have some fun too. So my list I've got about nine or so things on there. First thing is an empowering, intimate relationship with lots of laughter I love to laugh laughing is really important to me. And it just brings me so much joy. Well, I guess that would make sense. It just hits me different you know, maybe it makes you happy. But it makes me really happy to laugh. The second thing on my list is one or two kids to love setting financial empowerment and I've got there with automated income. I know that is very clear for me. Some more things on this list monthly travel three trips a year to the Philippines to see my family because they're all They've all moved their post lockdown talking about the palm tree life it's beautiful. More things to be a well known inspirational, energizing and empowering coach who cares. I mean I am these things inside of me. But I want to bring them out to the world. So that's that's on my list. Other things be physically healthy, fit and strong. I love muscles. Delicious. Have a beautiful space to live and make into my home. Yes, space is important. How you feel in your space is important making it your home is important. You think Maslow's hierarchy of needs, you got water, you got food you need that safe shelter for you. Whatever that is for you. For me. My home is really important. More things on my list. Speak basic, Tagalog, which is the main language I speak in the Philippines. I want to be able to take myself around y'all. I want to be able to handle myself. I also would love To learn basic Arabic, I just feel really drawn to the language. I love the way that women speak Arabic it is so passionate it is so will just seem so direct. I have no idea what they're saying. But it seems so direct and powerful. I just love it. So that's all malice to step two for me, what are this year desires. So my 12 month timeframe starts from today. I'm right between New Year's Day and my 35th birthday at the time of recording this for you. So I'm going with today. What I'm highlighting as this year's desires to implement are an empowering, intimate relationship with laughter. Yes, financial empowerment through an automated income stream, traveled to the Philippines twice, do a yoga retreat, become more known for coaching. So I checked in my body to make sure that this year's desires felt good for me, I started to break each desire down into steps that I needed to take. So getting clarity about what those steps were made me feel even better. However, I did feel doubt creeping about financial empowerment. So I spent a bit more time on that desire, really Nutting out how I can make my monthly income goal, a reality. I was thinking about how many people might take interest in high performance made simple. I was thinking about ideas for online courses, what kind of investments I could make and how I could learn about doing that. And once the numbers added up, I could see how I could make it a reality. And I felt really good about it. So I took the mystery out of how I was going to achieve it, which then dissipated the doubt, and made me feel good about the desire. So just because I initially felt some doubt creeping does not mean that it's not meant for me, it just means I needed more clarity about how that was going to happen for me, because I am a super practical person. And you probably are too they need to be able to see yourself and it needs to have some level of realism in this vision. And having those steps clarified, made it real. So step three, for me, one of the 30 and 60 day action steps. Examples of my 30 Day action steps are one, launch my high performance made simple podcast, some sub steps for that, create a getting out there strategy. Tell everyone I already know. And block time for the rest of my episodes for the rest of the year. Yes, another action step, align more deeply with my current partner sub action steps, revisit my personal values, get clarity on my relationship values, scheduled time to speak with him and learn what his values are. Is it a nice surprise and he gets back from his work trip. Anyone working on your values.
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Anyway, another sub step, create relationship alignment. This is where I'm going with this an integrated set of relationship values, guiding principles you can call them that we can live and love by that we can make decisions by that we can feel secure and like we're both able to get the priority needs that we need satisfied, and that we're able to receive them as well. It creates that safe space. And I also want to give him clarity on what I'm working on as a person as, as a woman. There's a lot of talk on the masculinization of women to the working woman. And it's true. It's not just the dude in the relationship who's forging stuff and making stuff happen, wham bam, bam, women are doing it too, when we choose to and when we're supported. So I want to create that opportunity for support and connection with what I'm doing by also giving him clarity on that. More stuff, more steps. I've pre booked weights training, as well as my favorite classes in boxing and yoga. In my calendar. I've actually become pretty good with my boxing fitness. You can check out a few of my videos on Instagram if you like at Tanya underscore high performance. And I've also pre booked meditation time in my calendar because that is super important to me. It's one of my high performance habits, practices that I repeat that I know create success for me some 60 Day action steps are continue blocked time for exercise, meditation and podcast making protect time for my relationship. That means planning weekend's dinner dates times to talk movies just quality time together, doing things that he's interested in all that beautiful stuff. More things implement my getting out there strategy. So if in 30 days, I'm getting clear on what their strategy is, my 60 Day action steps are actually implementing it, putting it to work. And finally, book flights to the Philippines
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your challenge would you wish to accept it is to download the goal clarity PDF that is waiting for you at WWW dot Tanya lesley.com. Forward slash goal clarity, to get your goal clarity in one place and to get a real move on towards being and doing all the things that you need to do to make you happy. Now don't get too caught up in thinking, oh, there's so much of this new stuff I got to do. It could be stuff you're already doing. You just have to be clear about what that is. You can do it with more intention, more fire, more impact. Yes. It might also give you permission to strip stuff out of your calendar to say to people, listen, mate, I've got some clarity on what's really important to me, or what's really important to me and my family. And actually, this thing isn't anymore. So how can we rework there so that we can align differently, or just cut it out altogether? Whatever you need to do, you're in charge. I also want to say that dreams might scare you. And I hope they do. And I also hope that they excite you that scary part could be the excitement that you haven't felt in a long time. That's an indication that you're on track. That's a feeling good feeling. Remember, anything is possible in life good and bad, but you make the good, more probable more likely to happen. So probable means more likely to happen. When you get gold clarity and implement the steps you've mapped out in the timeframes you've decided. I'm inspired now to do an episode on creating alignment with other people. It's something that clients always ask me about. So it would be a good service to do this. So I'll do one on creating alignment professionally with your team, for instance, and also creating alignment personally in your significant relationships. So stay tuned for those. In the meantime, give the other clarity episodes. Listen, get that self clarity, get more relationship clarity, get habits clarity, meditation is one of mine. What are yours? Get all of the clarity so that you are really set for success, my friend. Thank you so much for listening. I hope you enjoyed this episode. And if you'd like to support the high performance made simple podcast, you'd make me smile for 30 and 60 days, maybe all year long. So please share it with three awesome people. Maybe they're your friends, maybe they're your colleagues. Maybe it's your partner in life. You know, I love to love upon all of that. So, to catch the latest from me, you can follow me on LinkedIn at Tanya Semerad or Instagram at Tanya underscore highperformance pow pow pow. I look forward to tuning in with you again soon. Ciao for now.